How do you deal with a break up after being together with someone whom you loved for 3 long years? I admit it is going to take some time and effort, but you will get straight through this. If you have a religious faith, be sure to lean on your spiritual guides for words of peace and guidance. In the meantime, here are my words of relax and advice to you, that will hopefully help you while this painful and difficult time...
Advice #1: Take things one day at a time. In the beginning, you might cry a lot and feel truly depressed, and that is okay. Allow yourself to grieve over the loss of
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someone you cared about, about a lifestyle you've grown accustomed to, and the romantic idea that you would be together forever.
Even if this break up is temporary, right now, it feels very real and you can allow yourself to treat it as such. Give yourself permission to be as weak and useless and helpless as you need to be. I find that the more I give in to what I am going straight through in the moment, the sooner it passes and magically disappears. Just allow yourself to feel your feelings and let it out. When I went straight through my break up after 3 years of being together with the man I seriously view I was going to marry, I felt as if something or someone had died... And I truly read books about how to grieve the death of someone close. Your instincts will let you know what you need to do to let go, and issue the agony and pain that you feel inside. It could be:
creating a ritual to say all the things you need to say to the other person writing a letter to pour out your thoughts and feelings looking for a counsellor to share what you're going through etc...
Let your inner voice guide you because deep down inside your heart, you know what is right for you, and only you. Nobody else can give you that.
Advice #2: Know that you are a strong gorgeous woman and that it will get better. I admit that things feel truly bad right now. But this too shall pass. Remember when you were younger and you imagined that you would all the time feel awkward colse to boys? Look how much you've grown and how well you handle yourself colse to them now. Similarly, this is just one event in your life, and you will get straight through it somehow. Since you survived adolescence and those frightening youthful years, you will be able to survive this event too. I know you are strong enough. It takes time to recognize your own power as a beautiful, wonderful, worthy human being - who is loving, lovable and loved. Going straight through this emotional break up is just other stepping stone in your journey straight through life. Hang in there and remember to take things one day at a time. Be kind to yourself.
Advice #3: Introduce some nature and attractiveness into your life. Do you feel like you are never going to be happy again? Don't worry. You will. And you can start showing yourself that it's possible by allowing some nature and attractiveness into your life. I very advise you allow yourself to reconnect with nature when you are learning how to cope with a break up after 3 years. Why? Because there is just something magical and curative about the attractiveness of nature, that can bring some inner peace to the turmoil you are experiencing in your thinking and emotional life right now. My personal recommendation is that you take a short walk in a park, in a field, on a beach, everywhere that relaxes you. Feel the wind and sunshine on your skin. Look up into the sky. Be grateful and give thanks that despite all the pain you are experiencing, the earth continues to provide the air that you need to breathe and stay alive.
There will come a time when it is time for you to pick up the pieces and rebuild your life. But right now, it's okay to just let yourself grieve, be sad and be depressed. You will be amazed at your own human spirit to overcome adversity. I know you can do it.
How To Deal With A Break Up After 3 Years Of Being Together (Words of ease and Advice)
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